Ty & Min Chuan

I was working at the counter of 357 sauna in June 2006 when this Asian guy came in. he looked way too young for me. My type is usually closer to my own age. We have a very strict no cruising clients code for all staff. As management, I could never break this rule, but I couldn’t stop staring at him. I could see him staring at me too. We serve hundreds of guys a day and were all used to being cruised, just part of the job so why was this guy so different? There was a connection so strong it was mind blowing. I simply had to get his number, so I left a note in his locker.

I left and an hour later one of my staff called me. A guy at the counter couldn’t read the writing on a note in his locker, so handed it to the staff to read it. Two and a half years later they still remind me of how we met.

Our first date was a meat pie on the beach. We still love pies today and go back to our favourite spot every week. We‘ve never looked back. It was so perfect, and still is. Our relationship is open and honest.

We are 46 and 23, 120kg and 60kg, Caucasian and Asian, positive and negative. We are opposite in every way possible, but you can’t help who you fall in love with. It just happens, from an instant connection to a long lasting and loving relationship. As far as HIV goes, we rarely discuss it and don’t let it rule our lives. We both work and study and have little time to dwell on it. I wish we were both negative, but hey, once again, opposites do attract! Ty

We have been together for more than two years and our relationship is still going strong. The fact that we are a positive and negative couple did not affect our relationship. In fact, it made us realise life is short and to make the best out of it.

I admire his life experiences and he admires my outlook on life. This made us appreciate each other, which I find really special. But our age difference raises a lot of doubt about our relationship. We are always perceived as being in a ‘sugar daddy relationship,’ but after more than two years that doesn't affect us anymore. We never had an issue about safe sex, we simply do it. We always have and always will. You can't help who you fall in love with. Min Chuan