Get the most out of playtime by pinpointing his five pleasure zones. Tobin Saunders.

1. THE BRAIN

Self image is a big issue for many of us and, with the media constantly peddling unattainable images, this can fuel a bit of insecurity and body issues. Tell him he looks hot and fill him with yummy compliments, this will be the first step in releasing any chains of self doubt! During the process use your eyes (the windows to our souls) to caress and emphasise the parts of him you find irresistable! Note: this could take many hours depending on the number of “spots” you want to perve at.

2. THE MOUTH

There is that old saying, the way to a mans heart is through his stomach, so cook him something that you know will send him into fits of oral fantasia! There is nothing like a sense of occasion to rip one from the potential dullness of routine, so you could create a special candle-lit dinner with all the trimmings. A glass of nice wine is not necessary, but can help to loosen things up as well as help digest the meal. If you really want to get to his heart, or any organ, then how about a dessert that can be used for nude body slamming? With an eager tongue and well drizzled body there needn’t be a slurp of waste.

3. HIS FEET

Not everyone enjoys their feet being touched, but if your partner does then how about setting up a little footbath with some yummy essential oils and some Epsom salts. Let them soak for a while and then lovingly towel them dry. Add some oil (Olive oil works a treat and is cheap) and massage his feet gently. If you really concentrate, focus and tune in to him, you can find his favourite spots. Sometimes foot massage (also known as Reflexology) can bring on a dreamy drowsiness, so don’t expect a root immediately after. You could always continue the massage up the legs, until various parts of his body start to awaken.

4. HIS EARS

Play his favourite music and have a bit of a dance around the house. If you know his fave DJ is playing then maybe go out together for a hot dance in something that looks good and feels comfy. Bust a few moves and whisper filth into his ears, adding the occasional lick. The odd public display of affection is life affirming and sexy. I wouldn’t get down on all fours and start doing a Paris Hilton on the dance floor- leave that for the tabloid trash experts. If doing the Lambada gets your loins a bit horny then nip off to a clean SOPV (sex-on-premises venues) and finish things off. Alternatively, take the hot and sweaty energy home to the safety of the bed, kitchen, bathroom or wherever else takes your fancy. Chuck in a saucy role play to add extra spice! I always find the “hello stranger” narrative a real winner.

5. THE SKIN

It’s our largest and most sensitive organ and needs plenty of attention to stay supple and youthful. You don’t have to be a Zen Shiatsu master to give someone a massage. Place a towel and some pillows on the floor and make sure he's really comfy then get some nice massage oil and just go for it. Ask him if there are any special places that need attention. It’s a time to explore his body and maybe find new zones of pleasure for you both. Sometimes people need the massage to be expressed internally too so don’t be shy. Fingers, tongues and appropriate foreign objects can get into those nooks and crannies such as armpits, navel and of course your rear love canal. If things get a little out of hand then a simple rub’n’tug/happy ending is a perfectly suitable way to complete the massage. Note: Don’t forget plenty of water based lube and if you are sharing toys it’s good to wrap em’ in some latex.